Nick Cave spoke about the deaths of two of his children and admitted that he feels guilty about what happened. Arthurson of the artist with his current wife, Susie Cavedied in 2015, aged 15, after falling from a cliff while under the influence of LSD.
“I think it’s something that people who lose children feel [culpa]regardless of the situation, simply because one of the only things you’re supposed to do is not let your children die,” he said in an interview with The Guardian.
Immediately after making the comment, Basement He corrected himself, “Forget it. The only thing you should do is protect your children.” Jethroson of the singer with Beau Lazenbywould have taken his own life in 2022, at the age of 31 (via Monet).
Look, this is extremely difficult to talk about, but one of the things that used to worry me a lot is that Arthur, wherever he is, if he is anywhere, somehow understand what his parents are going through because of something he did, and that his condition of culpability is not much different than mine. And I think that’s the reason behind a lot of the things I do. It’s to say that everything is fine. I mean, it’s not okay, but we’re okay. We are fine. I think that Susie you feel that too.
Through the Red Hand Filesa site where fans receive philosophical answers from Nickthe artist found comfort in the support of many strangers: “It was something really extraordinary. And that attention, and sense of community, was extremely helpful to me. I think people are usually alone with this kind of thing. Susie met someone whose son had died seven years earlier and she hadn’t yet talked to her husband about it. These people are completely alone and perhaps filled with anger. So I can’t emphasize enough that I was in an extraordinarily privileged position in that sense.”
Basement highlighted that he had to deal with his grief publicly: “This prevented me from completely closing the windows, locking the doors and simply living in this dark world.” He also admitted that having experienced the loss of a son years before his death Jethro It helped, because “I knew I could get through it.” Jethro he was 7 years old when he met his father.
Now, the frontman of Bad Seeds You believe you can appreciate life more. “I’m quite simple about things. It says something to my children who died, that I can enjoy my life now. That’s what they would have wanted. I think we have a smoother relationship with the world now,” he said.
Joy is something that erupts unexpectedly and shockingly from an understanding of loss and suffering. This is how me and Susie we are. This in no way means that we were unaffected, or that we somehow got through it, or that we had closure or even acceptance. I think closure is a silly thing. Even acceptance is like, ‘Give it a few years and life will go back to normal.’ This doesn `t happen. You are fundamentally changed. Their chemistry is changed. And when you are rebuilt, you are a different person. The world seems more meaningful.
Nick Cave He has two other living children: Earlfruit of marriage with SusieIt is Lukeson of Brazilian Viviane Carneiro born just ten days apart Jethro. Despite the tragic losses, Basement revealed that he does not feel cursed.
The “Into My Arms” hitmaker believes he could be misunderstood when he says he can find joy in life. “I find people, mothers particularly, occasionally saying, ‘How dare you suggest there is joy involved in all this?’ People are so angry, and they have every right to be angry about the f*cked up cosmic evils that happen, and it’s deeply unfair. But it’s not personal. It feels like it is, but it’s just the vicissitudes of life,” he argued.
