Self-forgiveness: accepting failures to live lighter – Jornal Estado de Minas

“It takes courage to accept who we are: light and shadow”, says psychologist Irineu Deliberalli, with decades of experience in connecting psychology with spiritual therapy. Author of the book “The Emotional Matrix”, he advises you to forgive your own imperfections for a lighter life.

If imperfection is one of the characteristics that define human beings by essence, accepting these flaws means living at peace with yourself. This is Irineu Deliberalli’s main advice for a lighter life. As a therapist, shaman and director of healing rituals, he explains that the flaws and afflictions that make up each human being can be related to ancient experiences of the soul.

Even phobias, “phantom” physical pains and apparently uncontrollable emotions can also be associated with memories of the spirit in previous times. In the book “The Emotional Matrix”, he discusses the subject with the public and advises: when these remnants of the past appear, you need to welcome them to move forward.

“Human beings are not taught to look at themselves, to try to understand what is happening to themselves. We swept everything under the rug,” he says. Therefore, he reinforces the importance of seeking to understand the causes of each affliction and psychological condition so that there is the opportunity to know oneself better, accept oneself and forgive oneself.

An interview with the psychologist follows. Check out:

1. You combine knowledge of esoteric psychology, psychodrama, shamanism, family constellation and reiki to address the influence of previous memories and consciousness in everyday life. In short, how do the present and past relate to emotional healing?

Irineu Deliberalli: We are multidimensional and eternal beings. The Memory Regression technique (RTVP) itself demonstrates and proves this. Thus, the structure of human life is related to the existence of seven bodies. In our 3rd body, which is the emotional body, there are records of memories or consciousnesses from past lives that have not been healed. We return in each new incarnation to heal this past and, in the course of our experiences, these stories touch us to be given new meanings.

2. The book mentions cases of past experiences that affect the present, such as the example of your cold feet — you comment that your feet get cold even on extremely hot days because you discovered that, 17 lifetimes ago, you were marked by having walked barefoot in the snow of Russia. Do you see these events as a reality that leaves a lasting impact on the human psyche, or is there room for a more metaphorical interpretation of the facts?

ID: Our emotional body, which is also called the astral body, brings all the stories from our past that have not been healed, from the first incarnation on the planet until now. I don’t just have the story of cold feet. I have other stories, such as fear of heights, where I was thrown down a cliff of more than 700 meters in another past life and resulted in an awareness of depression that appeared and remained disturbing me with depressive symptoms for almost a year.

I started talking to this consciousness, as if I were a patient in therapy, and this consciousness ended up being dissolved. The book brings a reality in a didactic way that no one has brought to this day. I clearly explain how these stories from our past interfere with our present, never being something metaphorical.

3. In addition to your own clinical experiences and observations, how do you draw on influential figures such as Freud and Jung to support your arguments about the influence of past memories and consciousness?

ID: The doctors, Freud, Jung and Moreno, were the great masters of psychology that I have studied to this day. They gave me the basis to reach the conclusion I reached. Each of them helped me understand the formation of the human psyche, the development of our personality, how much each person’s inner child interferes in an adult’s life. It’s a Gemini side of me that likes to understand how everything works. There is great inner dissatisfaction with what I don’t understand, so I try to understand. However, I am obliged to report, so as not to miss the truth, that I have a level of paranormality, which allows me to perceive other planes of human reality beyond this material. And, by accessing these plans and receiving so much information from them, I was able to write this book.

4. Thinking about the impact of these memories, how do you suggest readers can forgive the past and integrate these experiences into their current lives to achieve personal happiness? And how important is self-knowledge on this journey?

ID: From the oracle of Delphi in ancient Greece where the statement “man, know thyself”, and Jesus brought Christianity and stated “know the truth and it will set you free”, Doctor Freud – a pioneer in the history of psychology – began to demonstrate the human need to get in touch with our pain or shadow. When I do this, without the judgment of society or especially religions, I have the possibility of having a greater understanding of who I am. However, it is necessary to have courage to look at ourselves, to discover ourselves and to accept who we are. We are light and shadow. This is how life is done on planet Earth.

5. The chapters provide insights that may be of interest not only to mental health professionals, but also to different audiences who do not have in-depth knowledge about past life therapies. What reflections and teachings do you highlight, in general?

ID: I understand that everything is very simple and at the same time very complicated. Human beings are not taught to look at themselves, to try to understand what is happening to themselves. We swept everything under the rug. And we don’t understand that what I throw under the carpet is dirt and will be the shadow that will certainly come to the surface. If I could give you one tip it would be this: look at yourself, understand yourself, know yourself, accept yourself and forgive yourself. And love yourself.